Forgiveness as a commandment is not easily applied, especially when the harm is great.  When the heart cries out for justice, and the grief runs so deep the body can hardly contain it, this is the point at which faith is tested. Trusting in the God who claims all vengeance for His own and commands His followers to forgive takes will power, especially when the harm is not only to yourself but also to those you love. I forgive the harm to me personally.  The harm to others is not mine to forgive. I ask God’s mercy on those who … Continue reading

Fixing the Divorce Problem

Divorce strikes at the heart of our vocations that include marriage.  Divorce is a symptom of flaws in how we develop ourselves and in the way we choose our spouses. More study of those flaws and what needs to be done to correct them will go far in the effort to decrease divorce. Over at the Register they have an EXCELLENT article about the damage divorce causes children. This article highlights a conference focusing on the experiences of the children from marriages that break up.  Divorce causes them emotional problems and while not insurmountable, the damage is real. By severing … Continue reading

Wanted: Partner for Marriage

I’ve been thinking about marriage since I responded to a post on Catholic Online Forum.  A young man was asking about what we thought important to finding the right spouse.  I’ve some things I think worth saying on this topic. I think shared values and faith are pretty well understood to be important in seeking a partner. The following are rarely discussed to any extent and so here is what I have found to be important: Know yourself.  This is an important key.  There are things about each of us that when we are honest about ourselves are traits which … Continue reading